» » Second Chances (Men, Women Children A Decade After Divorce)

Second Chances (Men, Women Children A Decade After Divorce) ebook

by Judith S. Wallerstein

Second Chances: Men, Wome. has been added to your Cart. This book was recommended by a psychologist. It is one of the rare studies about divorces with children and the remarrying of a divorced spouse.

Second Chances: Men, Wome. The blended family can be very challenging, but reading the studies will help anybody marrying into a blended family. I am one of them, my step son was 10 when I married his dad; and my step son was our best man. This book prepared me for my step son wanting dad to marry mom; it prepared me for the days of no socks and underwear; and as a result our home life was calm.

Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Start by marking Second Chances: Men, Women, and Children a Decade After Divorce as Want to Read: Want to Read saving.

The national bestseller Second Chances has radically transformed the. Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Start by marking Second Chances: Men, Women, and Children a Decade After Divorce as Want to Read: Want to Read savin. ant to Read.

Bibliography: p. -322. The nature of divorce - Getting in touch : ten years later - - Nicholas and Christina Moore - Denise Moore : playing the queen of hearts - Sammy Moore : boys leaving home - Ruth Moore : daughters and.

Judith Wallerstein taught as the senior lecturer from 1966 to 1991 at the University of California, Berkeley. Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a Decade After Divorce JS Wallerstein, S Blakeslee - Ticknor & Fields; . She held faculty positions at the University of California, The Hebrew University, and Pahlavi University Medical School. In addition, she also lectured at Harvard, Cornell, Stanford, and Yale. Wallerstein was a consultant for the Advisory Commission on Family Law to the California Senate. ISBN 978-0-89919-648-0.

Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1996) concluded that most American children who experience a bitterly-fought parental . The so-called sleeper effect was found in young women whose parents divorced while they were young children (Blakeslee & Wallerstein, 1989).

Wallerstein and Blakeslee (1996) concluded that most American children who experience a bitterly-fought parental divorce suffer lifelong problems in forming committed sexual relationships. Their conclusion is supported by the following data on children of divorced parents (Wallerstein, 1998):. Even those who contributed to stable marriage statistics were often far from happy in their union.

oceedings{dCM, title {Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a. .Parental marital conflict and divorce, parentchild relationships, social support, and relationship anxiety in young adulthood.

oceedings{dCM, title {Second Chances: Men, Women and Children a Decade After Divorce}, author {Judith S. Wallerstein and Sandra Blakeslee}, year {1989} .

A Summary of Some of the Findings in the Book: Second Chances: Men, Women, & Children a Decade After Divorce by Judith S. Wallerstein & Sandra Blakeslee (New York: Ticknor & Fields, 1989). Professor of Biblical and Systematic Theology. Trinity Evangelical Divinity School Deerfield, Illinois July 31, 1996.

Second Chances, based on Judith Wallerstein's groundbreaking study of sixty families, has radically transformed the ways in which we think about divorce. For anyone who is contemplating divorce, going through a divorce, or living in its aftermath, the candid and urgent stories gathered here are at once instructive and reassuring.

Men and women might become depressed or frenetic, throwing themselves .

Men and women might become depressed or frenetic, throwing themselves into sexual affairs or immersing themselves in work. But after a year or two, it was expected, most would get their lives back on track, at least outwardly. For women over 40 at divorce, life was lonely throughout the decade; not one in our study remarried or sustained a loving relationship. Half the men over 40 had the same problem. In the decade after divorce, three in five children felt rejected by one of their parents, usually the father -whether or not it was true. The frequency and duration of visiting made no difference. Children longed for their fathers, and the need increased during adolescence.

Find many great new & used options and get the best deals for Second Chances Men Women and Children . item 1 Second Chances by Judith S. Wallerstein; Sandra Blakeslee -Second Chances by Judith S. Wallerstein; Sandra Blakeslee.

item 1 Second Chances by Judith S.

Men, Women & Children A Decade After Divorce: Who Wins, Who Loses- And Why
There IS a lot of information about how families are affected by divorce, but I sort of wish it had been divided into two different books, one written about parents and divorce, and one written towards children, and how it affects them. As it is, the book was too tedious to sit and read all the way through for me. I skimmed it, and ended up putting it in the good will pile. Could be useful to someone contemplating divorce...but if you were the child from a divorced family, well, for me it related info I could have told them myself, but I was hoping for something to help with the after effects of divorce, and I didn't feel there was anything there in that department. But that is just my one opinion, there did seem to be a lot of research done there, maybe others find it useful, I just didn't.
After being divorced and with grown children this book opened my eyes to a lot of things. I have recommended it to several people, including my therapist.
Great Book and so pertinent to our times.
Seller listed book as new, but when it was discovered that the state of the book was not as described, the seller contacted me and kindly worked out a very generous solution. I would absolutely do future business with this seller and highly recommend them for their high standards, honest, and good values. Seller was stellar when it came to communication. I am an extremely satisfied customer!
This book reports the results of several research projects conducted by Wallerstein to investigate recovery from divorce. As divorce statistics were mounting in the 1960s and 1970s, conventional wisdom held that divorce was rough on spouses and children, but after one or two years, most people got over it and moved on. Wallerstein and her team decided to see how true this was. They interviewed spouses and children who happened to live near their offices in California during the early 1970s and who were going through a divorce at the time. Then they found the same people a year later and interviewed them again to see how many had recovered from the divorce, and to what extent. At the time of the second interview, they were surprised to find out how many people hadn't recovered yet, so they checked back again with the same people after five years to see when the recovery happened. They were quite surprised to find that most people still hadn't recovered after five years, so they found the people again at ten years, and some of them even after fifteen years, and were dismayed to find that most people never really do recover completely from divorce. Some of the spouses, often who originally sought the divorce, came out ahead, but most of the children were devastated by the divorce and hadn't recovered even by the fifteen year mark, when many were already young adults and forming families of their own.
Important results from Wallerstein's research include:
--Women who are older (40+) when they divorce are much less likely to ever remarry than men who divorce at a comparable age. Women who are younger at the time of divorce often remarry.
--The age of the children plays a very important role in how well they adjust to the new family structure. Boys are especially vulnerable if they are between the ages of five and seven when their parents divorce. Girls who are young when their parents split up may suddenly need stronger connections with their fathers when they become teenagers.
--Joint custody didn't seem to be any better for the eventual development of the children than traditional single-parent custody arrangements- -but some parents enjoyed the regular time away from the kids.
My husband's parents divorced when he was three. We've been together twenty years, but until reading this book, I never was truly aware of how devastated he was by the divorce. I knew that the divorce still disturbed him, but I never understood how much or why, or why it was still so sad for him forty years later. The book also got me thinking back to my best friend in middle school, whose parents got divorced. I knew she was very upset about the divorce at the time, but I couldn't understand what she was going through. Her family decided on joint custody, and for a while, it seemed every time I would call her house to ask her to come over, her mother would tell me that she was staying at her father's. Since neither of us were old enough to drive, we stopped getting together as often as before, and eventually, I stopped calling. We found that we couldn't maintain our closeness with all of her bouncing from house to house, and we drifted apart just at a time when she needed close friends the most. After reading this book, I began to understand that to a child, divorce seems to be like amputating a limb- -if someone loses an arm or leg, they generally learn to compensate within a year or two, but they are never completely whole again.
The information and depth of research represented in this book is very good, but the story is not quite complete. In order to determine whether the continuing problems that the children had were due to the divorce or to chance, the study would have much better if Wallerstein had included a control group of similar families who did not divorce. It also would have been good to compare the children of divorced families with children who have lost a parent through death, and adopted children, and children who are raised in single parent families from birth. Designing a study to include all of these groups would be unwieldy, but it would have been nice to at least see for comparison results from other published studies that covered these groups. Overall, though, the book is quite well done, and extremely thought-provoking.
What a marvelous book. Children of divorce and their parents were tracked over 10 years (some for 15 years), using in depth interviews, questionnaires, and conversations with school personnel. There were some startling findings, such as that children who initially seemed to adjust very well to the divorce, could have specific kinds of problems years later. However, Wallerstein's answer to the question of whether people should stay married for the sake of the children is "of course not". Knowing what the potential difficulties are, well meaning parents and step-parents can try to minimize them.

For a reader such as myself (happily married) looking not for answers but insight into human nature, the book is very rewarding and very moving. Parents and children often speak eloquently through these pages, and there are many people to admire and empathize with. Wallerstein is very sympathetic, and non-judgmental except when condemnation is clearly deserved. There is a certain amount of repetition, which would normally bother me, but here it just reinforces the emotion and the content. Readers with a little less patience might be advised to start with chapter 2.
I agree with the negative reviewers to the extent that this book and its predecessor, "Surviving the Breakup," are unremittingly bleak. What's interesting is that if you read Hetherington's "For Better or for Worse," which is based on a 1,400-family study (unlike this book, which was based on 60 families), you'll get a very different and--I think--more nuanced account of the range of experiences associated with divorce. I found Wallerstein's books interesting, but they're practically apocalyptic.

These Wallerstein books, it's worth mentioning, are not self-help books. "Surviving the Breakup," in particular, is misleadingly titled. The books primarily describe research findings and don't offer much in the way of tips and guidance. You're more likely to come away with the sense that the damage has been done and everyone is screwed forever.
Second Chances (Men, Women  Children A Decade After Divorce) ebook
Judith S. Wallerstein
Family Relationships
EPUB size:
1225 kb
FB2 size:
1389 kb
DJVU size:
1215 kb
Ticknor & Fields; New Ed edition (1990)
384 pages
Other formats:
azw txt lrf mobi
© 2018-2020 Copyrights
All rights reserved. | Privacy Policy | DMCA | Contacts